I’m back with yet another blogpost. I know, I know.. it’s been a while since I shared my last post promising I will keep posting weekly but couldn’t keep the promise. Now I have learned my lesson; to not promise anything like that unless I’m 100 % sure about it. So, from now on I will try to post as often as I can. Being said that, let’s start talking about today’s topic. TBH, this post is super personal and was pending for so long. I wanted to share it way back but couldn’t share it for some reasons. I have shared two family planning posts already. I highly recommend you to read them first before going ahead with this one!
Conscious Parenting Starts Long Before you become a Parent
Well, first let me tell you about US(Vandna & Atul Tilkaan): we got married on 3rd, May 2013 (when I was 27 and my husband was 29 years old) and we both decided very early in our marriage that we will wait at least 4 to 5 years before we will start a family. We were so conscious of the responsibility of bringing new soul into this wonderful world. We both wanted to know each other better, save enough money, travel, and grow together. We just wanted to be ready for our little one’s arrival; financially, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. And that’s what we did; we started planning when we were ready to start a family in a true sense. We got pregnant in May 2018 (exactly 5 Years after our marriage) and we are so happy that we waited this much as there couldn’t be a better timing as WE WERE SUPER READY!
You both need to have thick skin and hard determination so that those questions won’t affect you or make you change your decision. Coz at the end of the day it’s gonna be you two who will be raising your baby and for that you both needs to be prepared in so many ways. Remember, at the end of the day, BOTH OF YOUR lives will be the ones changing drastically, forever, and there are things to think about and prepare for.
Preconception Checkup & HBV
The very first thing we did when we were ready to have a baby was to go for a preconception checkup( to get our vitals and everything else checked in October 2017). The preconception checkup helps you get any chronic conditions diagnosed and/or under control before getting pregnant, which in turn minimizes their effects on your pregnancy and baby. Plus this visit is a good opportunity to ask your doctor anything on your mind about getting pregnant or pregnancy. Many experts recommend booking a pre-pregnancy checkup at your ob-gyn at least three months before you plan to start trying. You’ll want to make sure you’re up-to-date on vaccinations, checked for STDs, tested for heart-health issues like high blood pressure and cholesterol, and make sure that any chronic conditions (such as diabetes, asthma, or thyroid problems) are in check. That preconception checkup made us sure that we both were physically capable of bringing a new soul into this world. When we went for the check up, the staff at the hospital were like why are we doing this(at that moment my period were regular and we both were fine). But, we just wanted to make sure that we don’t have any diseases or if everything is okay with our bodies (including our reproductive system). On our preconception checkup doctor recommended for me to get 2-3 Hepatitis B vaccine before trying. I got 2 Hepatitis vaccination and didn’t take the 3rd one. I know many people just start the whole process on their own but trust me medical help can make a huge difference in this whole process(especially, if you have irregular period). It’s a lot easier to get pregnant (rather comforting) when you know that you both are healthy. That’s why it’s quite important to look after your health before you decide to start a family.
Benefits of Medical Help
After our preconception checkup and 2 HBV, my cycle got irregular for few months and that’s why we took the help of a gynecologist before we started anything else. I wanted to have regular cycle before getting started coz tracking my ovulation cycle was becoming very hard for me. That’s why we went to see a gynecologist. She told us that she can give me pills to regulate my hormones but it will be difficult for us to start planning. So, she referred us to Another Doctor who’s a fertility expert (Yup! It was a big word for us too). And when we went to see the fertility Doctor, she told us that she can regulate my period with pills. Then she asked us when are you guys planning to have a baby?
She then asked us, if we are in hurry we can go for IUI coz then we won’t waste any time trying on our own. We told her that we are ready to have one. Since, we both were super ready to get pregnant, we decided to go for IUI. It was big decision for us but we didn’t wanna waste our time in trying on our own. And to be honest just like most people, I would have much preferred to avoid a fertility clinic altogether but at that point of time we were just so ready to have a baby and decided to go all in!
The doctor helped me to regulate my period by giving me some prescriptions (like Estrofem, Duphaston 10mg, and Clomiphene- Ovamit 50mg and started monitoring my ovulation window(ultrasound). Yes, I had to inject Ovidrel 250mcg ( hCG trigger shot) to induce ovulation and then we did IUI but it didn’t work that time. After that first try I was super exhausted and had very painful period that month. I just wanted to just relax for a while so we took one month break and went on holiday in April 2018. After we came back from holiday, we were ready to try again so we went back to checkup with our doctor. She did the ultrasound and gave us date to inject the Ovidrel. Since, I didn’t like the experience of injecting Ovidrel the first time I went for ovulation test strips instead to check if I was ovulating. I had this gut feeling to not go for the injection this time as it was so painful for me the first time. I listened to my gut and bought ovulation strips this time. Trust me, it makes the whole process a lot easier if you know your exact ovulation period. I wish I knew about availability of ovulation strips sooner.
Go with Your Gut
I used the ovulation strip on that day in May just because of my gut feeling that I might be ovulating. It was 2-3 days before the date my doctor has told me to inject ovidrel. After I did the ovulation test, I texted my husband (He was out at the moment) that I’m ovulating and we don’t need tp inject the ovidrel. We both were so happy that I don’t need the injection anymore. My husband was like; do you want me to come back right away 😉 I said No, no need to rush, finish your work first and then come back(That’s so personal and funny in a way… I agree but needed to share all of this). So, he came back few hours later and we did our good deed 😉 . To make sure we get pregnant, we also informed our doctor so that she can go for the IUI the next day. We told her that I’m ovulating and we already tried on our own at home. She gave us an appointment for the next day and we went for the IUI the following day.
And That’s How we concieved Mr S !
I don’t know whether it was through our normal intercourse/Love Making Session that day or the IUI the next day, but this time we got pregnant!
And that’s what matters the most!
However, I truly believe that it was the result of my intuitive feelings and our love making session that day(plus I went turkey baster naturally without baster or catheter at home)!
We had to wait for two weeks and before our next appointment I did the test at home and came to know that we were already pregnant!
It was such an exciting and happy day of our lives! we did couple of tests that day at home and they all came positive!
So, that’s how our conscious parenthood journey started, it started when we mutually decided to focus on ourselves and to look after ourselves first; physically, mentally, emotionally, financially and spiritually. I believe that bringing a new human being into this world is one of the biggest responsibilities in the world. And we all should take it very seriously. We are responsible for well being of that tiny human so we better be ready as whole!
That’s why I wrote these series of posts about family planning because I believe in mindful living and conscious parenting. However, I am still a work in progressing and trying to educate myself more. And idea behind such posts is to share whatever I have learned so far with the people who are looking for (or who needs) this type of information. Some of you might already know that my son has just turned 3 this January. We have enjoyed his company ever since we conceived him. We are learning, relearning and unlearning with him and for him. I feel like today I was ready to share this post and felt like it was the perfect day to share this post!
This post was hardest for me to share publicly as everything I have shared here is quite personal. However, I always felt like I needed to share this!
And I’m so glad I did!
I feel so free now!
PS: To all the couples or anyone who wants to have a baby, please take care of yourself first; physically, mentally, emotionally, financially and spiritually. It’ very important to have a healthy mind, body and soul of your own before you bring new one to this earth. And never ever hesitate in taking the medical help if you need it. We would have tried on our own but it would have taken much more time for us to get pregnant considering my period were all over the place. They used to be regular for few months and then irregular for few. If it wasn’t for my irregular periods we would have just tried every month but I don’t know how that would have gone and for how long…that’s a different reality altogether. But we are so happy with the choices we have made. So, this was our story of how we got pregnant!
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Lot’s of Love & Light!