Hi Everyone!

Happy New Year!

How is your new year going so far?

Mine has started with a good yet slow note. I was in Phuket for more than a month and came back on 5th Jan, 2022. So, it took us a while to get back to our routine after the work-vacation. Now that we have settled into our new routine I’m getting back at blogging. I’m going to post once or twice a week here on my blog. So, stay tuned for upcoming posts! And today’s topic is inspired by yesterday’s conversation with my husband about goals. We were talking about dreams, desires and goals while I was making breakfast.

I have written one similar blogpost back in 2019 about new year resolutions. So, if you are interested in reading, here is the link;

What is Goal?

Goal is “the object or aim of an action, for example, to attain a specific standard of proficiency, usually within a specified time limit.” …Latham & Locke

What is Goal Setting?

Goal setting is the process by which we achieve our specific goals. Goal setting is like road maps to get you from one point to another. It provides the direction you need to reach your destination, the motivation to sustain you on your trip, and a way to measure your progress. It motivates and directs your attention to relevant behaviors and away from behaviors which are irrelevant or detrimental to the achievement of the specific goal/task. Goal setting is much more than simply saying you want something to happen. Unless you clearly define exactly what you want and understand why you want it the first place, your odds of success are considerably reduced.

Why Goal Setting is important?

We all have desires to achieve more, to fulfill big and small dreams related to different aspect of our lives; mental, physical, financial, work, relationships and so on. I truly believe that each New Year comes with new energy and new opportunities. That’s why It’s best time to set goals for the rest of the year.

Well, you can set goals any day/week/month of the year. However, it becomes quite easier when you set them in the beginning of the year. And re-evaluate everything you have done or achieved in December at the end of the year. You can evaluate your goals and resolutions and see how far you have come in a year. It’s really amazing to see how much your life can change in a year.

The best way to get desired results is to plan for the future, but live one day at a time. And goals are the first step towards planning for the future. And when you set a goal, you provide your mind a direction towards that specific goal. Without setting a goal it would be impossible for you to achieve it.

So, are you ready to give your dream a direction??

If, yes then keep on reading!

How to Set a Goal?

First write down all of your goals on paper or on your laptop or on your phone(whatever you feel comfortable with). For me the physical act of writing down a goal makes it real and tangible coz I have no excuse for forgetting about it. And when you write your goals frame them positively and use the word “will” instead of “would like to” or “might.” There is certainty in “will” and “would like to” doesn’t have that. So, make sure you frame your goals correctly. And once you are done listing them, divide them in different categories such as; Personal, Professional, Financial, Relationships, and so on. The next step would be to write down your whys for each of your goals like what’s your intention behind that specific goal. You have to set them with real meaning so that you don’t give up. You have to ask yourself why you want to achieve that specific goal. And you have to be careful here with your goal setting coz sometimes we set goals without even thinking if they are truly ours or belong to someone else. Sometimes, we get fascinated by what we see on social medias and tv and think we want that too. But, if you will dig deeper and ask yourself; do I really want that?…you will get your answer. Plus when they are truly yours you will naturally have the enough discipline of desire to achieve them. As Jim Rohn has said “discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment” It’s because the discipline is the only way to get you there. And that will happen only if you will have your true why/intention.

Effective Goal Setting

If you want to set your goals in an effective way then you have to make sure that they are very specific, meaningful, attainable, relevant, and time-bound. The setting clear goals is more likely to close the gap between current ability and the desired objectives. So, you have to get specific and very intentional. Eg. if your goal is to gain/loose weight, you have to specify like how many kilos/pounds. Your goals should always be meaningful and relevant to your life. This means that the goals should be inline and in harmony with your core values. If your core values are contradicting your goals, then you’ll find yourself merely getting frustrated and giving up. You goals should be challenging yet attainable. Some studies have shown that setting challenging yet attainable goals increases the chances of achieving them. And another thing you have to keep in mind is to make sure they are time bound. Time-bound goals are measurable and that’s why you have to set an exact date to achieve your goals.

The next step is to break each goal down into monthly or weekly goals. It becomes easier for you to hold yourself accountable by measuring those goals on a daily, weekly, and monthly basis (like how close are you to achieving your goals and how much you have already achieved etc.). Without making your goals time-bound and measurable, you won’t be able to see your progress. So, keep that in mind.

For an effective goal setting you also have to make sure that you have an accountability buddy. An accountability buddy is someone that can hold you accountable with your goals. A person who can help, support and motivate you to stay on the track. So, find someone that either has similar goal as yours or someone who would be ready to monitor you. For me my sister and husband are my accountability buddies. I share most of my goals with them. So, you can have someone like that too.

I really believe that if we set our goals effectively it becomes easier for us to follow through. And that’s why I say it’s half battle done already if you set your goals correctly. Coz when you set them effectively and mindfully you will have enough discipline to achieve them.

To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one’s family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one’s own mind.”…Buddha

Make an Action Plan-Steps I can take to achieve /How

This step is super important in the process of goal setting. So, write down the individual steps for each goals, and then later keep crossing each one off as you complete it. By doing so you’ll realize that you are making progress towards your ultimate goals. This is especially important if your goal is big and demanding, or long-term. But make sure you make the whole process fun and exciting. To make this process fun and exciting; visualize how success looks like for you(expected outcome) for that specific goal. It will further motives you towards your goals consciously as well as subconsciously. And as I said earlier it’s really important to measure/evaluate how far you have come and to celebrate every single milestones. So, make sure to setup a system for evaluating your goals. And if you find yourself pursuing a goal but continuously hitting a brick wall, readjust your method, ways and techniques. This doesn’t mean that you have to throw your goals out and start all over again. It means that you have to try different approaches until you find yourself getting closer and closer to your goals. That’s why constant evaluation on a regular(weekly/monthly) basis is so important. If you don’t evaluate you can’t measure your progress.

Reward yourself for your successes, but don’t punish yourself for failure.

Acknowledge your success, celebrate every single milestone and success. Goal setting is an ongoing process not just a means to an end. So, put reminders to keep yourself on track, and make some time to review your goals on weekly or monthly basis. Your end destination may remain quite similar over the long term but the action plan you set for yourself along the way can change significantly. Make sure the relevance, value, and necessity remain high so that you can keep moving towards your goals. Reassess your goals and make alterations when you feel it is necessary to do so. It’s great to shoot for the stars, but goal setting is more about what you can realistically accomplish rather than an idealistic vision of what you hope you can achieve.

Actual result on how did you do?

And once you reach the target dates, evaluate each of your goals and ask yourself; how did I do?

And remember to evaluate yourself on the basis of progress not on the basis of desired outcomes/results. And then celebrate your wins! Reward yourself for the progress you have made in each categories!

Pat yourself on your shoulders/back for the progress!

And then start over again with the goal setting. Ask yourself what should I continue, start, stop doing to build on your goal? Add some New Goals for the New Year and then repeat the whole process again with new insights!

We all have the capacity to adapt and to achieve our personal goals. Through goal setting, we raise the bar in relation to our own potential and push ourselves to achieve things we only hoped were possible. I personally love goal setting process and that’s why I wrote this post!

What about you?

Have you ever incorporated goal setting in your life?

If you have then share your views and experiences in the comments below.

I hope you enjoyed reading this article and found it useful!

And I hope after reading this post you will be able to set goals with confidence and will enjoy the satisfaction that comes along with the goal setting!

Happy Goal Setting Everyone!